When someone tells you about how they are having a hard time, never tell them about how some other guy had similar or worse problem and even they could survive!
Instead of encouraging them, you are just emphasizing their incapability in handling a problem, and saying that insignificant their struggle is insignificant. Summary : 'You are a loser.'
Instead, if you want to take another case as example, how about you try to know how the other person overcame their problem, and try to see if there's something that might be applicable to your friend's situation?
That way, it might cost a bit of an effort, but you will actually be useful, perhaps! And if there's nothing applicable, then just shut it.
Stop wringing out your fake sympathy--that you care about them when in fact you just want them to stop whining.
In the way that you wouldn't like your parents to compare you with your successful cousin, don't compare people's problem and underestimate them.
It's not like you are guaranteed to be able to handle it better, if you were in their shoes. To be able to consider how you would feel to be in their shoes--that's empathy, what you really need instead of mindless words.
Because more than anyone, they already cursed themselves enough.
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